Q My 94-year-old mother has dementia. We first noticed short-term memory loss six years ago, although looking back, other personality changes were also present. She received a diagnosis, but wouldn’t engage with any mental health services. She lives near by and we are a close family.

Mum was always fiercely independent. I was happy to support her to remain in her own home, visiting five days a week. She frequently complained that she felt lonely and isolated, but she wouldn’t consider alternatives.

Mum denied that she had any cognitive problems — she said it was a conspiracy between me and the GP. She became verbally aggressive towards me, paranoid and unhappy. She couldn’t use the bath or shower and she wasn’t eating properly. There were only…